Monday, November 17, 2014 ♥ 6:17 PM
The happiest moment in the office is when a said person aka AS (the label Rainbow had given to this person months back) is not within range.
The air is fresher, cleaner and breathable.
So now, what's there for me to write?
At times, I do read my old post to reflect and ponder what I had written before and think through what are the changes I had made or mistakes I learnt.
Today, after thinking for months, I am going to put down my thoughts on how to handle people like AS, so months later, when I look back here, I can motivate myself better.
1) Let them have the center "stage"
People similar to As are, in other word, desperate to be the center of attraction. It is a desire that may have developed since young age. DO NOT fight with them the "stage" and possible, play (act) as a good listening year even if you preferred to do something else better.
2) Avoid Conflicts
Learn to step back and not get into ugly situations. The term 'ugly' refer as the time where the other party is so defensive and it is almost impossible to talk any senses into them. Actually, most of the time, they never see their fault. So, avoid at all cost.
3) Do not take credits
This portion is similar to pointer one. However, if you happened to be involved with the other party on any projects. DO REMEMBER to not take the credits. Although, at times, you may find yourself not given any credits as again, the center "stage" symptom. However, towards the end, they will ensure your credits are highlighted and known. Just not during the process.
4) Endure the negative vibes
I know, we are all working adults and yes, no one should be showing or giving away any negative vibes to anyone. However, we are all guilty for committing the same mistake. So, give it a break and let these people sulk all they want and not take into offence.
5) Their events are much more important than yours
Okay, I was debating whether I should mention this here. But it seems to be the case.
As much as your events (if you are doing events) are important, apparently, you should not be voicing out and need to keep it quiet or you will be known as very boastful. Yet, they are allow to boast their events all they want and you are not allow to show displeasure.
This situation goes back to pointer two - Avoid Conflicts
6) Their problems are problems. Yours are easily solved issues, Nothing to scream.
This is something I learnt for months. Apparently (again), my problems are nothing compared to theirs and I should be 'hush hush'. So when any similar cases occur for them, man... the world are falling apart and you should be sympathetic and not show any sign of happiness in front of them as that means you are gloating over their problems.
So, this goes back to pointer four. ==
7) Be attentive!
Similar to pointer one. Be attentive when they decided to share something. I know, it is going to be really boring for you but if you choose to ignore and continue to do some other stuffs. Beware of any consequences. They kinda make sure you hear no end of it. (in a really bad way) ==
8) You are a loner.
So... let's goes back to the days in school when we were innocent kids. Remember the little bullies we may have encountered? Well, so you may have done nothing and unknowingly, being outcast just because they do not like your face? But do note that bullies are usually insecure kids who need to be in-charge. So here's goes... this is something happening everywhere in the corporate as well.
Thought we have all grown-up and move on? Guess time freeze for these people since this is something they tend to do. So, they will be the Queen Bee or King of the Lions whom will required a group of faithful followers and for some strange reasons, they always get the followers!! (Seriously, are people so DESPERATE to be a groupie??!!)
Anyway, so again, if your face displeasure them, you are on the chopping board. So what to do? Endure. (For some, refer to pointer two)
9) Hold your temper
I know... and I am speaking from experiences...
You may have (okay, I mean every part of your body) the desire to kick, slap, box these people. However, nothing can be solved physically. Trust me. Nothing. It only gives them a super good opportunity to cry victim. (another good chance to gain more followers)
This gives you nothing but endless cold treatment from others and you will become a loner/sinner/bully. In reality, we know what's going on. Just that no one to support you as no one dare to be seen as your supporter in fear of being outcast as well. T.T
10) Hey, There's Karma!!
Love it or hate it!
What's goes around comes around. Please have strong belief in this!
It may not happen immediately but it will happen one fine day. Who knows? It may happen the very next minute.
From experience (again), one of these people I know got her (yes, it's a SHE) got her own medicine after years of stabbing others. It's a pity I have no videos to post here. (Okay, stop being mean!!)
So, endure....
Well, the above are some of the pointers to be shared to many out there who have to endure people similar to AS. You are not alone!
People may call you sensitive but do tell yourself to hold on!
One fine day, the truth will be out. There is no paper in the world that fire will not burn through.
GAMBATTE!!
